Mentoring might be the single strongest component for the success in my life. But in twenty-seven
years, only three men have been true mentors to me. Pete Stone guided me through the first year being a Christian (which was also my last year of high school); Joe Glenn Smith had a major impact during the last year of college and first year after graduating; Bas Hofland in business this past year.
Although mentoring can have an enormous impact, very few people continue the process because it is so difficult. As a friend said recently, mentoring is more than asking a series of questions on a checklist. “True mentoring takes place in a one-to-one, life-into-life relationship that is based upon a mutual personal commitment to the investment, development and empowerment of the people involved.”
The context of mentoring: business life, spiritual life, family life. Narrow it down: the context of
mentoring is life. If you are here and want to get there, you have a few choices: go to a class, read a book, listen to tapes, learn by doing, or mentoring. More than any other method, mentoring can quicken the process and ease the pain level associated with growth.
Consider these learning models and steps in learning from James Saxon, provided during our Young
Families Sunday school class. Although the context of the talk was family, the lessons apply directly to the business life.
Learning Models*:
| Greek Model |
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Hebrew Model |
The "Classroom" Academic Passive Theoretical |
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The "Coach" Relational Participative Experiential |
*Consider this post by Ed Brenegar for clarification and historical correction.
Most of us currently follow the Greek academic model: we go to B-school, read books and periodicals, and listen to tapes and talks. We should continue to learn through the classroom. However, the most impact occurs when this is simply a supplement to the Hebrew relational model.
Learning Steps in the Mentoring Model:
- I do, you watch
- I do, you assist
- You do, I assist
- You do, I watch
- You do it alone
Our retention level is lowest when we simply hear or see. It is highest when we hear, see, say and do. The mentoring model challenges us to do more than watch, read, or listen. We are provoked to act. But, we’re not left alone to figure it out because our mentor is there to help us. He does, we watch and learn. We do, he watches then provides feedback on our action.
Why pursue a mentor? Saxon suggested 5 reasons:
- Personal Nurture and Growth
- Skill Development
- Supportive Accountability
- Personal Clarity and Validation
- Direction and Decision Making
Who should be a mentor? Will I pursue a mentor now that the season with Bas has ended? Read my next post.